How much of who you are has been shaped by who you’ve been with?
And how much of who you are is shaping others?

I’ve been thinking a lot about the ripple effect of our lives, especially in light of my dad’s recent passing.

Dad passed away in early January after a long, brutal battle with Alzheimer’s. While we grieve his loss, we’re also thankful his suffering has ended - and grateful for the hope we have of seeing him again in New Creation.

I had the privilege of leading both his cremation and thanksgiving services. So many friends, family, and colleagues - spanning decades - gathered to honour a life spent loving Jesus and loving people.

Tribute after tribute was shared - some planned, others spontaneous - as people reflected on the impact Dad had on their lives.

A close friend and neighbour, Cam, came to support Amy and me at the thanksgiving service, even though he’d never met my dad. Afterwards, he came over, gave us a hug, and said something that’s stayed with me:

“Matt, I never met your dad, but listening to those tributes, it felt like they could have been talking about you.”

I don’t share that to draw attention to myself or take anything away from my dad. If anything, it’s the opposite.

That moment felt like a glimpse of legacy.
A reflection of the character, faith, and passion that Dad had quietly formed in me over a lifetime.

Of course, he wasn’t perfect. 
None of us are. 
Growing up, there were moments where he’d say or do things and I’d think, I’ll never do that.
But that’s part of it too.

Legacy isn’t about copying someone exactly.
It’s about being shaped. 
Taking the best of what’s gone before us, and choosing to grow beyond what wasn’t.

And now I think about my two sons; Andy and Dan.
As the baton passes to them, my hope is simple:
That the best of my life will inspire them.
And the worst of it? That they’ll recognise it - and choose better.

Because legacy ripples.
Not just to your kids - but to everyone you meet.

I pray the best of me keeps growing: becoming more like Jesus, which is the goal of my life. 

But I also pray for courage to face the parts of me I don’t like. The flaws, fears, and failings. So, they don’t quietly shape my life or theirs. I want to confront them, reject them, and let God - and the people He places around me - shape me into something stronger, wiser, and more loving.

It’s why I find myself praying most days (I wish I could say every day):

God, fill me afresh with your Holy Spirit. Make me more like Jesus.
For my good, for the good of those around me, and for your glory.

Why not pray it too?

Your life – your leadership - your legacy - depends on it.

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Cheering and praying for you always